tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post3677278614757412529..comments2023-07-10T02:34:56.505-07:00Comments on Maryam Keyvani, Now: A Superlative-loving Culture and our Life StoriesMaryam Keyvanihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11630885023769670240noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-32599743875962410942012-11-30T17:21:41.664-08:002012-11-30T17:21:41.664-08:00So true Arezou my dear. Thanks for sharing.So true Arezou my dear. Thanks for sharing.Maryam Keyvanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630885023769670240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-43091856943295742142012-11-30T12:25:05.465-08:002012-11-30T12:25:05.465-08:00My yoga instructors always say, "it is not th...My yoga instructors always say, "it is not the depth that matters, it is the correct form that has the most impact. That it is yoga practice, not yoga perfect." These statements really hold true in my life. Every night when I go to bed, I feel really happy and satisfied with my life. I believe that my existence makes a difference in some young soul's life at least once a year. I believe that those someones will forever remember me, and they will speak of me to their future children. So I strive for a life that holds the kind of form that gives me the most satisfaction at the end of my day. I strive to be, (here come the superlatives), the happiest, the most joyful, and the most positive. My cup is always half full, half full of joy (I know I sound cliched, but I am the judge of my own corniness, and I say, "If it makes me happy so be it!); and on the days when my cup seems half empty, I learn what it is that I need to do the next day to change that. After all, as long as I can remember all the wonderful things about myself that define the greatness and the uniqueness in me, I am pretty content. Perhaps it is the narcissist in me, but in so many ways it is the narcissist in me that reminds me of the fact that my cup is half full. <br /><br />At the end of the day, I need to be content with myself and my own personal achievements. My life then, is a practice to be as joyful as possible, and be as content with my existence as possible in a positive light. I will not measure my achievements against anyone else's. I think maybe I will write my own obituary so that I don't forget all the little accomplishments, endeavours, and challenges that make me so unique to myself. <br /><br />I think the utopia you speak of is really attainable within one's self, irrespective of our cultures' criteria for greatness. If everyone learns to celebrate their own existence, then perhaps they can learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others, however small or big the accomplishments. Arezou Setoudeganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16829856343325941658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-14656994440355850772012-11-29T14:23:46.026-08:002012-11-29T14:23:46.026-08:00People are lonely soles. A life story, in terms of...People are lonely soles. A life story, in terms of experiences gained, is nearly unique to each person. You might think you have some idea of what it's like to have x millions dollars, but you have no idea what it's like to be e.g. bill gates and have x million dollars. what i mean is that the external form of the world is a very weak indicator of how it is actually experienced (by lonely soles) and therefore, how it is enjoyed. all the same, the external form of the world is more or less how it is naturally supposed to be: the best performers will always be remembered more than others. while we might not have much control on whether we will be remembered or not, we might have a choice in what we value, which effects how much we enjoy a life. e.g. at a concert, the fact of the concert would present a single capacity for enjoying life to everyone involved -the performer, the audience, the staff, etc.-, if all these people, for a second, forgot what their personal contributions were to the whole, and were "just happy to be there". such is the concert of life. lol.alirezahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11392172286643076191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-61489481629814745632012-11-29T14:15:15.730-08:002012-11-29T14:15:15.730-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.alirezahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11392172286643076191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-89469993489288019742012-11-28T19:37:18.697-08:002012-11-28T19:37:18.697-08:00Thanks for your comment Voids. I can't say I d...Thanks for your comment Voids. I can't say I disagree with anything you said. One should consciously evaluate their life and decide what their values are and ultimately what -at their death bed- would make them proud of the life they lived. And yes I was also making the point that winning more does not seem to bring that satisfaction.<br />Whether someone's life is normal or not as you said depends on who is looking at it. My description was merely an objection to the way our society seems to view or evaluate a life like mine or yours. <br /><br />Maryam Keyvanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11630885023769670240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2090449771101730172.post-28540534409695122232012-11-28T18:43:46.179-08:002012-11-28T18:43:46.179-08:00A few comments:
One should re-educate him/her sel...A few comments:<br /><br />One should re-educate him/her self, better to be in his/her 20's. In this reconstruction, one should revisit 'everything', the values induced by parent's and society, definitions, biases, ethics, morality, spirituality, psychological complexes, etc... and as part of it definition of success, and a conscious decision on the path s/he wants to take. You can decide to define it as becoming best of something, or you can defining it as living based on a certain principle. If one goes deep, one can find analogies and connection to eastern vs. western philosophy.<br /><br />You mentioned that you are 'competitive', however, the rival has a big impact on one's state of being, happiness, and motivation. In my view as long as the competition is internal the person may find internal peace and happiness, but once the competition becomes external, there is no good end, because you can not stay on the top for ever. <br /><br />I also disagree with you with defining 'normal' life. In my view, it is all about the story teller.<br /><br />Overall (in my view of course), happiness and self satisfaction is not in becoming something, rather in being something. Getting a PhD, winning a gold medal, climbing Mt Everst, having 9 degrees, and knowing 12 languages, all are achievement, but they are not what a person is, they certainly help one to become something, but as you mentioned they are not the phrases that one uses in the obituary, and that depends how many lives you have touched and in what capacity. -VoidsAhmad Khoshnevishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00433939977160589274noreply@blogger.com